Behavioral therapy to address maladaptive behaviors.

Blaming and Finger Pointing

When conflict happens, it is natural to want to point the finger at the other party emphasizing what “they” need to change. Perhaps blaming is a defense mechanism or simply an easy way out. No matter how we label it, this strategy seems to be ineffective in making sustainable change in our personal lives and [...]

Imperfection

“A real sign of progress is when we no longer punish ourselves for our imperfections” - Yung Pueblo Imperfection is a part of the human condition.  In some cultures, a damaged or broken item is viewed as more precious than it was in its pristine form.  So, if this is the case, then why do [...]

I Want To Know…

How do you want to live your life?  What a powerful question and one that is likely very challenging to answer.  Consider this poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer called “The Invitation”. I remember reading this for the first time about ten years ago and I continue to come back to it at different times throughout [...]

By | June 30th, 2017|Mindfulness|0 Comments

Emotional Validation – Why Is It So Hard?

Over the past week we've talked a lot about emotional validation.  Throughout these conversations there have been numerous questions and struggles in both understanding and practicing this important skill. I've also noticed that we try to complicate something that can actually be quite simple if we allow it to be. Here goes an effort to [...]

Love And Respect For Self

I've been noticing something when it comes to the topic of self love and self respect; it seems many of us are not very good at it.  It's almost as if others are deserving of this yet somehow we are not.  For example, when someone else makes a mistake we can offer warmth and forgiveness [...]

Thanksgiving Preparation…And, We’re Not Talkin’ About The Turkey!

The holidays tend to be filled with food, family, and inevitably some amount of emotional distress.  Here are some things for you to consider in preparation for your Thanksgiving: - What do you need to do to ensure your nutritional needs are met throughout the course of the entire day?  Some thoughtful planning around this [...]

Why Recover?

The process of recovery is grueling at times.  It is painful and requires consistent work.  Because of this, it begs the question of “Why?”.  “Why put in all of the work?”.  “Why commit time and resources?”. “Why recover?”. If you haven’t ever taken time to genuinely ask yourself these questions, please do.  If you can’t [...]

By | October 19th, 2016|Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Mindfulness|0 Comments

Weekend Reflections

Goodness!  There is always more to learn.  We’ve just spent a weekend away continuing our education about the process of healing in recovery.  Here are some important elements that we found to be powerful from our weekend: The importance of play. How often do you laugh or give yourself the freedom to simply let go [...]

By | September 26th, 2016|Mindfulness|1 Comment

Back To School

School is starting and anxiety is high.  Where are my classes?  What are other people going to think of me?  Am I going to be successful?  The list of worries goes on...and on... Our mind is made to think and in times of change and stress it tends to think even more. Here are some [...]

By | August 13th, 2016|Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Distress Tolerance|1 Comment