Behavioral therapy to address maladaptive behaviors.

The Grass Isn’t Always Greener

How often do you compare yourself to others?  How much do you truly know about the person you are comparing yourself to?   Comparison can actually be a helpful skill and, in fact, it's one we teach in DBT.  Before I talk about the benefits of comparison, let's talk about the pitfalls.  Looking on to another person and/or [...]

The Unexpected Challenges of Gratitude

As we approach the upcoming Thanksgiving Holiday there is an increasing focus on the concept of gratitude. Gratitude, which rhymes with "attitude," comes from the Latin word gratus, which means "thankful, pleasing." If you struggle with the concept of gratitude, you are not alone. Commonly, people say "how can I be grateful when I am [...]

By |2018-11-21T01:35:13+00:00November 21st, 2018|Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Mindfulness|0 Comments

Blaming and Finger Pointing

When conflict happens, it is natural to want to point the finger at the other party emphasizing what “they” need to change. Perhaps blaming is a defense mechanism or simply an easy way out. No matter how we label it, this strategy seems to be ineffective in making sustainable change in our personal lives and [...]

I Want To Know…

How do you want to live your life?  What a powerful question and one that is likely very challenging to answer.  Consider this poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer called “The Invitation”. I remember reading this for the first time about ten years ago and I continue to come back to it at different times throughout [...]

By |2017-06-30T23:42:18+00:00June 30th, 2017|Mindfulness|0 Comments

Emotional Validation – Why Is It So Hard?

Over the past week we've talked a lot about emotional validation.  Throughout these conversations there have been numerous questions and struggles in both understanding and practicing this important skill. I've also noticed that we try to complicate something that can actually be quite simple if we allow it to be. Here goes an effort to [...]

Thanksgiving Preparation…And, We’re Not Talkin’ About The Turkey!

The holidays tend to be filled with food, family, and inevitably some amount of emotional distress.  Here are some things for you to consider in preparation for your Thanksgiving: - What do you need to do to ensure your nutritional needs are met throughout the course of the entire day?  Some thoughtful planning around this [...]