New Years Resolution: Lead with Acceptance

As we embrace a new year there's often a focus on resolutions, goals, and change; all of which have purpose.  The concept often neglected during this time of year is that of acceptance.  Sometimes we [...]

By | January 1st, 2019|Categories: Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Distress Tolerance|1 Comment

The Unexpected Challenges of Gratitude

As we approach the upcoming Thanksgiving Holiday there is an increasing focus on the concept of gratitude. Gratitude, which rhymes with "attitude," comes from the Latin word gratus, which means "thankful, pleasing." If you struggle [...]

By | November 21st, 2018|Categories: Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Mindfulness|0 Comments

Blaming and Finger Pointing

When conflict happens, it is natural to want to point the finger at the other party emphasizing what “they” need to change. Perhaps blaming is a defense mechanism or simply an easy way out. No [...]

By | February 26th, 2018|Categories: Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Mindfulness|1 Comment


“A real sign of progress is when we no longer punish ourselves for our imperfections” - Yung Pueblo Imperfection is a part of the human condition.  In some cultures, a damaged or broken item is [...]

By | November 15th, 2017|Categories: Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Distress Tolerance, Mindfulness|0 Comments

I Want To Know…

How do you want to live your life?  What a powerful question and one that is likely very challenging to answer.  Consider this poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer called “The Invitation”. I remember reading this [...]

By | June 30th, 2017|Categories: Mindfulness|0 Comments

Emotional Validation – Why Is It So Hard?

Over the past week we've talked a lot about emotional validation.  Throughout these conversations there have been numerous questions and struggles in both understanding and practicing this important skill. I've also noticed that we try [...]

By | June 17th, 2017|Categories: Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Emotion Regulation|2 Comments